You (CAN) Ask That
summary
Panel answers practical how-tos: introduce your pronouns first or ask “what are your pronouns” (avoid “preferred”), correct slips quickly and move on, and never publicize apologies. For workplaces, add gender neutral bathroom signage and sanitary bins in every stall instead of gendered restrooms. For characters, favor subtle contextual clues over neon “this character is trans,” and always consult trans people rather than assuming expertise. Also: don't deadname — use current names and check references instead of asking past names.
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chapters (9)
- 0:00Start
- 0:11Ground Rules
- 3:54Lightning Round
- 4:04How Do I Ask Someone's Pronouns
- 6:25How Do I Make My Workplace Bathrooms Inclusive
- 12:55Why You Want To Include a Trans Character Is Important
- 14:25The Abrams Dumbledore Spectrum
- 19:26When Writing a Trans Character Is It Simpler To Write Them Just with Their Current Identified Gender in Mind or Are There Constraints To Be Made
- 23:25Favorites and Least Favorite Representations of Trans Characters and Media
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