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Coder, Coach, Catalyst - using questions to make people grow

Talkat NDC Oslo 2025 · 2025-05-19..05-23· [soft-skills, engineering-leadership]
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Claim: one repeatable skill and a concrete script stops being the team bottleneck. The method centers on active listening, three formats (formal, impromptu, team) with impromptu being most useful, and a sequence of five questions — initiation, excavation, focus, options, action — plus a short exercise called coaching like a 5‑year‑old (ask “why/what/how” or “and what else” repeatedly). Example outcome: developer clarifies priorities, commits to “message product by end of day,” and keeps ownership instead of handing work off.

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  1. 0:00Introduction to coaching
  2. 4:02The hero and villain dynamic
  3. 10:46Identifying the two problems
  4. 14:06Defining coaching
  5. 17:57The one skill: active listening
  6. 23:37Coaching exercise
  7. 27:28Three coaching formats
  8. 35:15The five coaching questions
  9. 52:25Coaching for decisions
  10. 55:30Coaching upwards and peers
  11. 58:28Pitfalls and summary
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