The Conflict and Burnout Survival Guide: Handling When Things Go Wrong
summary
Outlines a three-layer triangle of suck: crisis, conflict, burnout, with concrete workflows for each. For crises: stop the rot, investigate, short-term fixes, long-term prevention, review — exemplified by GitLab opening a live Google Doc and YouTube stream during an outage and recovering trust. For conflicts: act as neutral facilitator, do one-on-one calls to take notes, identify root causes, propose documented low‑effort solutions and follow up (heat dissipates in ~98% of cases). For burnout: five condensed stages and book-backed recovery steps plus when to seek medical help.
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chapters (16)
- 0:00Intro
- 1:27Welcome
- 2:39Disclaimer
- 5:30Be Humble
- 6:56Managing a Crisis
- 11:24Causes of Conflict
- 15:05Power Inbalances
- 16:39The Role of a Facilitator
- 25:01Stress and Burnout
- 27:04The 12 Stages of Burnout
- 28:33Stage 1 Insecurity and Proof
- 30:15Stage 2 Work Harder Longer
- 32:17Stage 3 Stop Taking Care of Yourself
- 33:48Stage 4 Relief Rejection
- 35:57Stage 5 Withdrawal Depression
- 38:23Stoic Toolbox
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