Why mentoring selfishly is better than selflessly
summary
Claim: mentoring selfishly—taking mentees to practice new management skills—accelerates growth more than vague, selfless help. Uses ADP List as a source of mentees, enforces cross-reporting-line mentorship, requires mentees to initiate meetings, and compares 30‑minute, bi‑monthly sessions that take notes to coaching that asks questions without continuity. Cites surprising stats (50% of women leave STEM after ~12 years, Accenture/Girls Who Code decline), and gives concrete wins: remote engineers, intern onboarding, rehired underperformer remediation.
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chapters (10)
- 0:00Mentorship introduction
- 3:56Passive mentorship limits
- 7:06Active mentorship keys
- 10:20Management transition struggles
- 13:08Cross-department mentor
- 16:22Growth via passive learning
- 17:47ADP List selfless mentor
- 20:14Selfish mentorship benefits
- 23:48Selfish mentorship for leaders
- 24:50Recap and call to action
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