You are Moldable, Yes? But, how to NOT leave all the molding to others to thrive
summary
Argues that others are not molding you—you are, by falling into a self-deception box; backs this with a concrete checklist of signs (justification, compiling evidence, feeling helpless, victimhood) and a seven-step process to exit it. Uses the book Leadership and Self-Deception as the theoretical tool, runs live polls and real-life case studies (a struggling engineering team and a household conflict) and prescribes actions—form a social network, stop self-betrayal, focus on mutual goals—which the narrator reports improves conversations, shared load and team deliverables.
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chapters (7)
- 0:00Start
- 2:15Do You Feel Molded by Others in Your Personal and Professional Lives
- 18:32How Do We Know When We Are inside the Box versus When We Are outside the Box
- 22:39How Do We Enter the Box in the First Place
- 29:03How Do We Become Ineffective
- 33:03Justification
- 40:20Quit Resisting Your Instincts
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