How to be an adult in (professional) relationships
summary
Concrete, actionable methods: depersonalization—ask “how might this not be about me” and own only your half; apologies as a full-sentence apology followed by a four-part correction (what happened, impact, root cause, what’s learned); power mapped by imagining people as dogs so big-dog behavior calms rooms; boundaries treated as lifespan as currency (block vacations, emergency span fund, office-hours queues); emotion-regulation plan (spotter safeword, isolate, walk, burn off adrenaline) and a step-by-step rupture-and-repair script to restore trust.
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chapters (9)
- 0:00Human relationships are hard
- 2:24Depersonalization
- 5:58Apologize properly
- 8:47Power dynamics
- 11:36Boundaries at work
- 15:50Oversharing risks
- 18:17Emotional regulation
- 24:36Rupture and repair
- 27:50Tools for better humaning
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