Tough Talk: How to Confront Your Opinion With Your Teammates?
summary
Argument rests on specifics: propose web driver vs Cypress with measured pros and cons, show results from a dockerized Firefox WebDriver prototype that takes days to get running and only convinces the team after iterating together, use numbers to expose bias (planning‑poker 8 vs 21, estimate 28 vs 42 weeks), train mutual critique with a twice a day code review exercise, talk about the code not people, and run short experiments when rational elements remain inconclusive.
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chapters (20)
- 0:00Soft skills in tech
- 2:19Soft skills undervalued
- 5:08Confront opinions without authority
- 6:56When to speak up
- 10:29Speak with confidence
- 12:45Debate ideas not people
- 15:12Hold or change position
- 17:21Resist peer pressure
- 21:18Experts disagree on solutions
- 23:30Biases in team discussions
- 26:20Change mind with evidence
- 28:30Accept feedback
- 30:17Agree to disagree
- 33:10Push solutions fails
- 35:34Questions to counterpoints
- 37:40Understand before being understood
- 38:45Self-awareness in debates
- 39:30Q&A: Stubborn seniors
- 42:26Q&A: Convince top management
- 44:31Closing remarks
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