Pairing with People Who Don't Look Like You
summary
Argues that pairing can be hazardous for underrepresented people and offers concrete diagnostics and fixes: identifies behaviors like teacher mode and echoing, recommends specific resets such as owning crankiness, taking a break, and name the behavior rather than arguing intent, then recovery steps — apologize, ask for advice, expose uncertainty and demonstrate active professional respect. Describes workshops and paid courses from Cohere used to practice these techniques and a Kickstarter for pair plushies that actually funded.
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chapters (8)
- 0:00Start
- 6:38bad pairing behaviors
- 7:48root causes
- 9:35how to tell
- 13:04resetting techniques
- 14:50apologize
- 15:04expose uncertainty
- 15:58listen
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