He Doesn't Work Here Anymore
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A developer announces a public gender transition, started hormones August 11 2013 10 13 pm, describes suicidal crisis and cites the stark statistic 40% of transgender people attempt suicide, loses family but finds employment at Instructure and builds community projects like LGBTech and Open Source for Women. Key concrete outcome is policy and practice change: Contributor Covenant adopted by Angular Bundler Exercism Rspec Mozilla, used as a code of conduct across projects, showing tangible impact on open source inclusion.
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- 0:00Intro
- 0:55MISSING THE TRAIN
- 1:18male assigned at birth
- 1:32body versus brain
- 1:47the pain of dysphoria
- 2:23information
- 3:01constant thoughts of suicide
- 5:25COMING OUT
- 9:04I'm going to transition from male to female next month.
- 11:03GIVING BACK
- 12:01REFACTORING MYSELF
- 12:13letting go of my ego
- 12:25learning to listen
- 12:35dealing with my impostor syndrome
- 13:05LESSONS LEARNED
- 14:00RELEARNING COMMUNICATION
- 14:46UNDERSTANDING CIS PRIVILEGE
- 15:39unquestioned access to bathrooms
- 16:09access to health care
- 16:41no concerns about passing
- 17:00no questions about your "real" name
- 17:49BEING A BETTER ALLY
- 18:02be careful with compliments
- 18:23body parts are off limits
- 18:38don't spout platitudes
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