Talk to Me Nicely - How to Communicate Your Ideas and Speed Up Your Career
summary
Claims that 85% of career success is emotional and a recent study finds 75% of people overestimate soft skills, then shows concrete tactics: use remove subject from feedback and tie notes to principles when commenting code, reframe proposals as business gains (CI/CD, smaller PRs, C4 architecture), practice active listening and safety subroutines to avoid angry escalations, and admit mistakes quickly. Applying these changed a resistant reviewer to accept every suggestion after six months and a one‑page cheat sheet is handed out.
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chapters (11)
- 0:00Intro
- 0:23LISTEN TO ME
- 4:46Dunning Kruger Effect
- 14:33There was a code review once...
- 28:07Tact, diplomacy, conciliation.
- 28:24Control your temper!
- 28:55SPRINT PLANNING
- 34:03Active listening
- 45:29Only technical skills development
- 46:31Stacking multiple skills
- 49:21Takeaways
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