Wax On, Wax Off: The Tough Love Guide to Mentoring
summary
Claims mentoring is not teaching but a one on one process that holds a vision for the mentee until they can hold it themselves, with the concrete rule Mentoring is 99% listening. Uses Karate Kid chores — washing, waxing, sanding and painting — as deliberate training to build skill and muscle memory, shows enforcing boundaries, expecting honesty and offering kindness, and applies examples from acupuncture yoga astrology pottery film sets and OpenStack to show what actually works.
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chapters (17)
- 0:00Tough love mentoring intro
- 3:28Why tough love mentoring
- 6:27Who I am
- 7:31Defining mentoring
- 9:14Mentoring vs education
- 12:33Great mentor qualities
- 14:43Learning to listen
- 15:04Enforcing boundaries in mentoring
- 16:30Honesty from mentees
- 17:56Kindness without strings
- 20:51Receptive mentee traits
- 23:43Agreements and motivation
- 25:31Safe learning spaces
- 26:18Follow-through matters
- 27:03Wax on wax off lesson
- 28:07Q&A on learning styles
- 34:33Closing and contact
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