Why can't everyone just do what I want them to?
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Claim: people form habits and get work done according to measurable types, so tailor management to those types. Uses Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies (upholder/questioner/obliger/rebel) and Carson Tate’s prioritizer/planner/arranger/visualizer taxonomy, concrete tools like time logs, calendar blocking, Trello, spreadsheets, post‑its and sharpies, and structural fixes (remove chips). A quick sample of 44 Facebook contacts yields 25 obligers, 15 questioners, 3 rebels, 1 upholder, showing obligers dominate; recommended tactics include accountability for obligers, clear rules for upholders, answered whys for questioners.
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chapters (40)
- 0:00Intro
- 0:30The 100 Day Project
- 1:30Humility
- 2:30Who am I
- 3:00Agenda
- 4:27Framework
- 4:48Upholder
- 5:18Questioner
- 5:43Obligor
- 5:56Rebel
- 10:15Upholders
- 11:40Gretchen Rubin quote
- 12:09The upholder
- 12:53Strategies for upholders
- 14:21Habit Strategies
- 15:14Obligers
- 15:36Accountability
- 15:55Habit Tracking
- 16:11Habit Strategy
- 17:09Ask someone near you
- 17:47Prioritize
- 18:10Planner
- 18:27Visualiser
- 18:53Questions
- 22:43Your Way of Doing Things
- 23:13lemur
- 23:29prioritize errs
- 24:17sample emails
- 24:55identifying a planner
- 25:40a planner email
- 26:21arranger
- 27:01email
- 27:37visualizer
- 28:12productivity style
- 28:55prioritize IRR
- 29:45live it to their strengths
- 30:42lead extended discussions
- 31:39visualizers
- 33:21practice
- 33:34resources
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