When to Stop Teaching Others and Start Caring for Ourselves
summary
Claim: the burden of educating others falls on marginalized people and that emotional labor must be managed with concrete practices. Offers specific tools: build a Provider Suite (primary care, therapist, massage/yoga), join or start ERGs, cultivate local and online support networks, use challenge by choice when confronting bias, and either reduce how much you give or negotiate pay for unpaid D&I labor. Emphasizes scripted conversations, documenting asks to leadership, setting limits, and using HR or Google before explaining history.
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chapters (10)
- 0:00Intro
- 1:17Finding Yourself
- 3:44Finding Your People
- 8:16Challenge by Choice
- 11:23Reaching Out
- 13:27Limits
- 15:10Finding the little things
- 16:21Being an ally
- 19:55Asking questions
- 23:16Takeaway
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